I am learning to be submissive to my husband. It is hard, but it has so many wonderful rewards. I honestly struggle with giving up control. I need to trust my husband to make the best decisions for us. I married him, obviously I trusted him, but I had to learn that he was trusting God to help him with the decisions he was making for us. I had to realize that Steve is submissive to God and I am submissive to Steve.

Until recently for the last 8 1/2 years that we have been married it was my job to pay the bills, keep up with the checkbook, and make sure there is enough money for us to make it through until the next paycheck arrives. I hated doing these things. I never knew if I was doing the right thing with our money. The money or really the lack of money caused many fights between Steve and I, even if it was something else we were fighting about, money lay at the root of it all. When we both started growing in the Lord, He made us see that we needed to change the dynamics of our marriage. Steve is the head, he is my leader, in all things. He makes the decisions. He pays the bills and keeps up with the checkbook. I no longer worry about what bills are due or if do we have enough to cover them all.

Now do not get me wrong, we are equal partners in our marriage. That is the way it is supposed to be. My opinions counts. When a decision needs to be made Steve comes and asks my opinion. He tells me how he sees it, and he prays about the decision. Then with all the info he has he makes the final decision. It is kinda funny, but it seems this way he listens to me more often than not. I think that reason is he gets to listen to my side and I listen to his side but there is fighting or yelling. Now if he does not make the decision I want him to make or if it turns out that was the wrong decision totally it is not my job to tell him ” I told you so you should have listened to me.” God will deal with him and help him see where he went wrong. My job as a wife is to encourage and support him at all times, no matter what happens. No, it is not easy, but with God’s love and help you and I can do this.

Ladies, our husbands have so many pressures on their shoulders, we do not need to add to it. If you are really having an issue with your husband go to God first. Pray about it, ask Him for help. If you feel you need to confront your husband, please do it in love. If you have needed the garage cleaned up for ages instead of saying, “Honey go clean that messy garage out” say ” Honey can you help me out? You are so good at organizing, could you figure out a system to organize the garage?” He will respond better because you asked for help, instead of issuing a command. Our husband get beat down by this world, their bosses, co-workers, family, and health issues. We need to be the ones to build them up. How long has it been since you told your husband how much you appreciate the hard work he does for your family? We need to be a safe haven of encouragement and support. Trust me, he knows when he has messed up. He has God as his head as our husbands are ours.

Being submissive does not mean we are a slave, or a doormat to be walked all over. If you really want a closer relationship with God start by serving Him. He will bless you for your faithfulness. God commanded that wives be submissive to their husbands. By your being submissive you are serving your husband. When you serve your husband, you serve God.

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

Ephesians 5:21-23


Wives, be subject to your husbands [subordinate and adapt yourselves to them], as is right and fitting and your proper duty in the Lord.

Colossians 3:18


For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands

1 Peter 3:5

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  1. Mel

    Obviously the two of you have grown in your partnership and have found what works for you–I believe that’s vital to any partnership. For me, it ‘s a constant journey that’s getting tweaked as we go.

    <– is a good little tweaker 🙂

  2. breyedlady0603

    It doesnt always work….it is a journey or a learning process but, I am learning to trust God with Steve and let it go




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