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Prompt/Theme for Friday, January 23, 2009

Tell us about a time that your spouse went out of his way to serve you, and love you sacrificially.

I’m also going to include a challenge this week. I don’t know that I’m going to do it every week, and you do not have to participate, but this one is really more to keep me accountable.

Your mission, if you choose to accept it, has two parts. First, look for ways that you can serve your husband. These can be big or small, sometimes the things that seem so insignificant to us can make a big difference in making our husbands feel loved and respected. And second, if your husband asks you to do something for him, even if it seems silly, or like he could easily do it for himself, do it cheerfully and without an attitude of annoyance.

We have been doing the Fireproof Bible Study. It is a six week study. The first week it takes you through the differences of  Ephesians 5:33  (However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband).  I really had no clue about how I had disrespected my husband. I had not meant to disrespected him but I did in my ways of treating him. This opened up a great dialogue between the two of us. We were each able to really open up to one another. We were talking about the way a man is supposed to be the head of the marriage. He really stepped up after this conversation and our prayer time together. He has really lovingly served me this way. He has taken over handling the bills, he lets me know much I can spend at the grocery store, and many other things that I do not have to handle anymore.

 

We talk a lot on the phone at night. It helps keep him awake and we miss each other. Last night he told me how proud of me he was. That really touched my heart to know that he saw that I really I am trying to be better.

A couple of weeks ago we had a little bit of extra money. He know how I was wanting a new mp3 player. Mine old one died before Christmas.  I love wearing it around the house as I clean since I am never really by myself to blast music. He and I went to Wally World first and they really did not have any that I liked so we went to Best B. I was so excited to get a new mp3 player. I tried to get him to get something, but he told me my smile was all he needed. My husband really does rock!!!  

 

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Prompt/Theme for Friday, January 16, 2009

This week’s prompt has two parts:

First, list at least one thing your husband did or said in the past week that reminded you why you love him. Everyone has to have at least one – even on a “bad week” – it doesn’t matter how big or how small! Nothing that touched your heart is insignificant!

And second, share a “Generous Wife Tip” – it can be on any subject – anything that you do or would like to do more often to make your husband feel loved and respected!

~One~

My hubby’s faith has made me smile this week. It seems like a small thing, but the strength of his faith makes mine stronger when I need it the most. His birthday was on Friday and I got made him a “love jar.” It is filled with strips of paper telling him why I love him, or why I respect him, some are just silly sayings, others are coupons on fake rose petals for foot rubs or other things, and others are just a  short little love notes. His reaction to the jar surprised me a lot. He loves it. He can not wait to make his daily pick out of the jar. He has already told me that he will be making me one. It really touched my heart the way he was so excited about a simple homemade gift.

~Two~

My Tip is tell your hubby every day not only that you love him, but you respect him and that you appreciate what he does for your family. He will appreciate this more than you know. You will be building up his spirit, his self esteem, and he will never have to question if you notice the hard work he does.

Happy-Birthday-CommentsMy darling,wonderful,absolutely the best husband in the world is 30 years old today!!!!!! Happy Birthday baby. I know you are a little sad, but just think our car insurance should go down!!! Seriously do not be sad. It is OK to be 30. Celebrate like there is no tomorrow!!!!

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Prompt/Theme for Friday, January 2, 2009

What are some practical thinks that you plan to do in the coming year to show your love and respect for your spouse? What are some habits/behaviors that you would like to foster in your life to improve your marriage?

I will make sure he has sweet tea. He drinks a whole lot of tea.

I am improving on my domestic responsibilities, they do not come naturally to me at all.

I am going to be more  supportive to his ideas.

I will ask him what are the three things you would like to have done every day without fail and I will do them.

I was sitting here feeling sorry for myself because Steve has to work tonight. When midnight hits I can only cuddle my Princess. If she is not already asleep. I got to thinking about it and I have nothing to feel sorry for myself about. 2008 has been a great year.

  • We got our own home, when so many people are losing theirs.
  • We have not lost one person in our family.
  • My Dad made it through another year, there was a point where we were not sure if he would make it through 2007.
  • Steve has finally found a good job that he likes. It took a couple of tries, but he is now a happy little camper.
  • We have gotten right with the Lord.
  • We got to see an African American elected president. I may not agree with his politics, but he is still a history making president.
  • Gas prices soared to new heights then dropped like a rock.( Thank You Lord)
  • We have found a church family that is awesome.
  • Steve and I’s relationship is stronger and we are closer than we have ever been.
  • Mom and Dad living here and no major problems.( Thank You Lord)
  • We found our missing niece, who has had 2 boys in her years being away from the family.

Yes we have had our downs, but are highs outweigh those by so much

  • Mom winding up in the hospital 2 times.
  • Being thrown out of our duplex because it was foreclosed on. (That was how we started the new year)(Mind you we were renters!!)
  • Patty ending up in the hospital.
  • Steve being fired twice and quitting 2 other jobs.

Really those are all I can think of. Like I said the good more than out weighs the bad. I hope you all have a wonderful new year and please be safe. May God bless all of you this year. Here’s to a great,safe,happy,healthy,and spiritual 2009!!!

I am learning to be submissive to my husband. It is hard, but it has so many wonderful rewards. I honestly struggle with giving up control. I need to trust my husband to make the best decisions for us. I married him, obviously I trusted him, but I had to learn that he was trusting God to help him with the decisions he was making for us. I had to realize that Steve is submissive to God and I am submissive to Steve.

Until recently for the last 8 1/2 years that we have been married it was my job to pay the bills, keep up with the checkbook, and make sure there is enough money for us to make it through until the next paycheck arrives. I hated doing these things. I never knew if I was doing the right thing with our money. The money or really the lack of money caused many fights between Steve and I, even if it was something else we were fighting about, money lay at the root of it all. When we both started growing in the Lord, He made us see that we needed to change the dynamics of our marriage. Steve is the head, he is my leader, in all things. He makes the decisions. He pays the bills and keeps up with the checkbook. I no longer worry about what bills are due or if do we have enough to cover them all.

Now do not get me wrong, we are equal partners in our marriage. That is the way it is supposed to be. My opinions counts. When a decision needs to be made Steve comes and asks my opinion. He tells me how he sees it, and he prays about the decision. Then with all the info he has he makes the final decision. It is kinda funny, but it seems this way he listens to me more often than not. I think that reason is he gets to listen to my side and I listen to his side but there is fighting or yelling. Now if he does not make the decision I want him to make or if it turns out that was the wrong decision totally it is not my job to tell him ” I told you so you should have listened to me.” God will deal with him and help him see where he went wrong. My job as a wife is to encourage and support him at all times, no matter what happens. No, it is not easy, but with God’s love and help you and I can do this.

Ladies, our husbands have so many pressures on their shoulders, we do not need to add to it. If you are really having an issue with your husband go to God first. Pray about it, ask Him for help. If you feel you need to confront your husband, please do it in love. If you have needed the garage cleaned up for ages instead of saying, “Honey go clean that messy garage out” say ” Honey can you help me out? You are so good at organizing, could you figure out a system to organize the garage?” He will respond better because you asked for help, instead of issuing a command. Our husband get beat down by this world, their bosses, co-workers, family, and health issues. We need to be the ones to build them up. How long has it been since you told your husband how much you appreciate the hard work he does for your family? We need to be a safe haven of encouragement and support. Trust me, he knows when he has messed up. He has God as his head as our husbands are ours.

Being submissive does not mean we are a slave, or a doormat to be walked all over. If you really want a closer relationship with God start by serving Him. He will bless you for your faithfulness. God commanded that wives be submissive to their husbands. By your being submissive you are serving your husband. When you serve your husband, you serve God.

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

Ephesians 5:21-23


Wives, be subject to your husbands [subordinate and adapt yourselves to them], as is right and fitting and your proper duty in the Lord.

Colossians 3:18


For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands

1 Peter 3:5

My husband in the last 24 hours has truly amazed me twice. God blessed me so much when He brought Steve into my life. My sister and I are not getting along so much right now, and it made Christmas a little awkward. When Steve said grace he stood up for me in a very positive and polite manner. I love having such a great man who is so supportive.

I have mentioned before our tradition of the teddy bears. Well I did not get one this year. Our money situation is tight and we just had more need of other things. I will admit I was disappointed those bears make me smile and bring me such joy as I bring them out year after year. Steve got a $30 dollar gift card from work and this morning he woke me up by stuffing a bear into my arms. He had stopped on his way home from work stood in line for Wally World to open and bought me the last bear with 2008 on its foot. He brought tears to my eyes. He is so thoughtful and loving. I am so grateful to GodChristmas Bear 08 for bringing Steve into my life.

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The company Steve works for was running out of bagel pans. So they sent Steve on a run to Kanasa. He left this this morning about six and he will not be back until late Sunday night or early Monday morning. I talked to him a little bit ago and he was in Kansas, but still has an hour and half to get where he was going. I miss him like crazy. Three days being away from him is a long time. I know we are lucky he found a trucking job that is not over the road, and is home every day. I am just not used to him being gone like this. OK sorry I had to whine a little. Love you baby. Please stay safe. Hugs and kisses.

We made another trip to the hospital on Thursday afternoon. However, it was not my Mom who needed to go, it was Steve’s Mom Patty. Her heart is acting up. She has to take nitro for her heart and she has been told if you have to take more than three pills go to the hospital, which is what we did. Let me tell you most of the E.R. department staff in Hughley Hospital was rude and unkind as all get out. I think we saw our nurse a total of 3 times in a 8 hour period. I know they were busy, but the little lady in the room next to us had a great nurse. Sher took care of that lady made sure she had something to eat, something to drink, and she even answered our pages to our nurse who had disappeared. There was also another nurse that was very helpful, and a radiologist that had a great since of humor! We finally after 8 hours of hardly any information were told that they were going to admit her into the hospital. We did not get her settled into her room till after 1 in the morning. I have to say the nursing staff in the unit we are is much nicer. They seem to really care about their patients. I spent the night last night with her and she was feeling much better. I came home about three and my Mom went to stay the night with her tonight so I could get some rest. Hopefully tomorrow she will be released, Mike misses her.

Ever since Steve and I had our first Christmas as a married couple we have been saying

Almost Finished Tree

this year will be the year we get a real tree. Every year we end just using the one we have in storage. I am so proud of us after all this will be our 8th Christmas together we finally bought a real tree!!!! I love real trees. Nothing can beat the smell of having a Christmas tree in your living room. I am so happy. When I was growing up my Mom would not even bear to think of using a fake tree. Although we have a very nice fake tree it is just not the same as a real one. I do not care what kind of candles, air freshers, or oil  you use nothing compares to the smell of a real tree.

The first Christmas we were together Steve bought me a teddy bear with the year on its paw. It was his way of making up of our first fight. Well it has become a tradition for him to buy me one of these bears or sometimes even the matching pair every Christmas. I have not received my bear for this

Teddy Bears

Christmas yet. I was not real sure where to put my bears this year. I have been moving them around trying them out in different places. I really liked them on the fireplace hearth, but we decided to use the fireplace so they got thrown on the couch. Then my brilliant husband decided to hang from the ceiling. I thought it was a pretty great idea!

My Mom had this Christmas village when I was growing up and I thought it was the coolest idea! So when I got married and started our traditions I started a Christmas village. I just started it last year really, but the auction we go to on Friday nights had this huge Christmas auction last year and I was able to get a lot of this stuff pretty cheap. Village