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Prompt/Theme for Friday, January 23, 2009

Tell us about a time that your spouse went out of his way to serve you, and love you sacrificially.

I’m also going to include a challenge this week. I don’t know that I’m going to do it every week, and you do not have to participate, but this one is really more to keep me accountable.

Your mission, if you choose to accept it, has two parts. First, look for ways that you can serve your husband. These can be big or small, sometimes the things that seem so insignificant to us can make a big difference in making our husbands feel loved and respected. And second, if your husband asks you to do something for him, even if it seems silly, or like he could easily do it for himself, do it cheerfully and without an attitude of annoyance.

We have been doing the Fireproof Bible Study. It is a six week study. The first week it takes you through the differences of  Ephesians 5:33  (However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband).  I really had no clue about how I had disrespected my husband. I had not meant to disrespected him but I did in my ways of treating him. This opened up a great dialogue between the two of us. We were each able to really open up to one another. We were talking about the way a man is supposed to be the head of the marriage. He really stepped up after this conversation and our prayer time together. He has really lovingly served me this way. He has taken over handling the bills, he lets me know much I can spend at the grocery store, and many other things that I do not have to handle anymore.

 

We talk a lot on the phone at night. It helps keep him awake and we miss each other. Last night he told me how proud of me he was. That really touched my heart to know that he saw that I really I am trying to be better.

A couple of weeks ago we had a little bit of extra money. He know how I was wanting a new mp3 player. Mine old one died before Christmas.  I love wearing it around the house as I clean since I am never really by myself to blast music. He and I went to Wally World first and they really did not have any that I liked so we went to Best B. I was so excited to get a new mp3 player. I tried to get him to get something, but he told me my smile was all he needed. My husband really does rock!!!  

 

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Prompt/Theme for Friday, January 16, 2009

This week’s prompt has two parts:

First, list at least one thing your husband did or said in the past week that reminded you why you love him. Everyone has to have at least one – even on a “bad week” – it doesn’t matter how big or how small! Nothing that touched your heart is insignificant!

And second, share a “Generous Wife Tip” – it can be on any subject – anything that you do or would like to do more often to make your husband feel loved and respected!

~One~

My hubby’s faith has made me smile this week. It seems like a small thing, but the strength of his faith makes mine stronger when I need it the most. His birthday was on Friday and I got made him a “love jar.” It is filled with strips of paper telling him why I love him, or why I respect him, some are just silly sayings, others are coupons on fake rose petals for foot rubs or other things, and others are just a  short little love notes. His reaction to the jar surprised me a lot. He loves it. He can not wait to make his daily pick out of the jar. He has already told me that he will be making me one. It really touched my heart the way he was so excited about a simple homemade gift.

~Two~

My Tip is tell your hubby every day not only that you love him, but you respect him and that you appreciate what he does for your family. He will appreciate this more than you know. You will be building up his spirit, his self esteem, and he will never have to question if you notice the hard work he does.

Happy-Birthday-CommentsMy darling,wonderful,absolutely the best husband in the world is 30 years old today!!!!!! Happy Birthday baby. I know you are a little sad, but just think our car insurance should go down!!! Seriously do not be sad. It is OK to be 30. Celebrate like there is no tomorrow!!!!

 

1. Where did you meet?
We met Thanksgiving night of 1999….on the internet. We met in person a couple of weeks later.
2. Who long did you date b/f you were married?

7 months

3. What does he do that surprises you?

He suprises me a lot……almost every day………………..hard to believe after 8 years. 

4. What is your favorite quality of his?

I love how loving and gentle he is.

5. What is your favorite feature of his?

His eyes I could get lost in them. I love his baby face, his smile, his legs, he has great legs.

6. Does he have a nickname for you?

Princess, Babygirl,Sugar Butt, Baby, and  Honey

7. What is his favorite food?

Chicken Fried Steak and gravy
8. What is his favorite sport?

Football, Nascar

9. When and where was your first kiss?

On the couch in the apartment my parents and I lived in at the time.

10. What do you like to do together?

Anything and Everything….. We love to watch movies snuggled up on the couch, to go on road trips, work on the house, talk,  really we are both happiest when we are together. It really does not matter what we are doing.

11. Do you have any children?

Not yet, we are having issues.
12. Does he have a hidden talent?

I am not sure how hidden it is. The man can drive anything that has wheels….I mean anything.

13. Who said “I love you” first?

He did, but I told him not to say it again in less he really meant it.

14. What is his favorite type of music?

His first choice is Christian….after that old country music.

15. What do you admire most about him?

His ability to be so outgoing and friendly and open to people we have never met before.

16. Do you think he will read this?

I do not think so….He really does not read my blog….He knows about it, but doesnt read it in less I ask him to.

 

I was sitting here feeling sorry for myself because Steve has to work tonight. When midnight hits I can only cuddle my Princess. If she is not already asleep. I got to thinking about it and I have nothing to feel sorry for myself about. 2008 has been a great year.

  • We got our own home, when so many people are losing theirs.
  • We have not lost one person in our family.
  • My Dad made it through another year, there was a point where we were not sure if he would make it through 2007.
  • Steve has finally found a good job that he likes. It took a couple of tries, but he is now a happy little camper.
  • We have gotten right with the Lord.
  • We got to see an African American elected president. I may not agree with his politics, but he is still a history making president.
  • Gas prices soared to new heights then dropped like a rock.( Thank You Lord)
  • We have found a church family that is awesome.
  • Steve and I’s relationship is stronger and we are closer than we have ever been.
  • Mom and Dad living here and no major problems.( Thank You Lord)
  • We found our missing niece, who has had 2 boys in her years being away from the family.

Yes we have had our downs, but are highs outweigh those by so much

  • Mom winding up in the hospital 2 times.
  • Being thrown out of our duplex because it was foreclosed on. (That was how we started the new year)(Mind you we were renters!!)
  • Patty ending up in the hospital.
  • Steve being fired twice and quitting 2 other jobs.

Really those are all I can think of. Like I said the good more than out weighs the bad. I hope you all have a wonderful new year and please be safe. May God bless all of you this year. Here’s to a great,safe,happy,healthy,and spiritual 2009!!!

And let the beauty and delightfulness and favor of the Lord our God be upon us; confirm and establish the work of our hands–yes, the work of our hands, confirm and establish it.

Psalm 90:17

It is obvious we are supposed to work more than rest. Some people just lie on the couch, eating junk food and watching television all day, and then wonder why their lives are a wreck.

Once rested, get up and work. You can not take authority over your life if you do not have authority over a sink full of dirty dishes or a messy garage. If you want to grow in ministry to others, the Word says you must get your own house in order first ( see 1 Timothy 3:5) Stay home and clean if you need to; but win the battle of getting your life in order before tackling the whole world.

I am learning to be submissive to my husband. It is hard, but it has so many wonderful rewards. I honestly struggle with giving up control. I need to trust my husband to make the best decisions for us. I married him, obviously I trusted him, but I had to learn that he was trusting God to help him with the decisions he was making for us. I had to realize that Steve is submissive to God and I am submissive to Steve.

Until recently for the last 8 1/2 years that we have been married it was my job to pay the bills, keep up with the checkbook, and make sure there is enough money for us to make it through until the next paycheck arrives. I hated doing these things. I never knew if I was doing the right thing with our money. The money or really the lack of money caused many fights between Steve and I, even if it was something else we were fighting about, money lay at the root of it all. When we both started growing in the Lord, He made us see that we needed to change the dynamics of our marriage. Steve is the head, he is my leader, in all things. He makes the decisions. He pays the bills and keeps up with the checkbook. I no longer worry about what bills are due or if do we have enough to cover them all.

Now do not get me wrong, we are equal partners in our marriage. That is the way it is supposed to be. My opinions counts. When a decision needs to be made Steve comes and asks my opinion. He tells me how he sees it, and he prays about the decision. Then with all the info he has he makes the final decision. It is kinda funny, but it seems this way he listens to me more often than not. I think that reason is he gets to listen to my side and I listen to his side but there is fighting or yelling. Now if he does not make the decision I want him to make or if it turns out that was the wrong decision totally it is not my job to tell him ” I told you so you should have listened to me.” God will deal with him and help him see where he went wrong. My job as a wife is to encourage and support him at all times, no matter what happens. No, it is not easy, but with God’s love and help you and I can do this.

Ladies, our husbands have so many pressures on their shoulders, we do not need to add to it. If you are really having an issue with your husband go to God first. Pray about it, ask Him for help. If you feel you need to confront your husband, please do it in love. If you have needed the garage cleaned up for ages instead of saying, “Honey go clean that messy garage out” say ” Honey can you help me out? You are so good at organizing, could you figure out a system to organize the garage?” He will respond better because you asked for help, instead of issuing a command. Our husband get beat down by this world, their bosses, co-workers, family, and health issues. We need to be the ones to build them up. How long has it been since you told your husband how much you appreciate the hard work he does for your family? We need to be a safe haven of encouragement and support. Trust me, he knows when he has messed up. He has God as his head as our husbands are ours.

Being submissive does not mean we are a slave, or a doormat to be walked all over. If you really want a closer relationship with God start by serving Him. He will bless you for your faithfulness. God commanded that wives be submissive to their husbands. By your being submissive you are serving your husband. When you serve your husband, you serve God.

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

Ephesians 5:21-23


Wives, be subject to your husbands [subordinate and adapt yourselves to them], as is right and fitting and your proper duty in the Lord.

Colossians 3:18


For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands

1 Peter 3:5

My husband in the last 24 hours has truly amazed me twice. God blessed me so much when He brought Steve into my life. My sister and I are not getting along so much right now, and it made Christmas a little awkward. When Steve said grace he stood up for me in a very positive and polite manner. I love having such a great man who is so supportive.

I have mentioned before our tradition of the teddy bears. Well I did not get one this year. Our money situation is tight and we just had more need of other things. I will admit I was disappointed those bears make me smile and bring me such joy as I bring them out year after year. Steve got a $30 dollar gift card from work and this morning he woke me up by stuffing a bear into my arms. He had stopped on his way home from work stood in line for Wally World to open and bought me the last bear with 2008 on its foot. He brought tears to my eyes. He is so thoughtful and loving. I am so grateful to GodChristmas Bear 08 for bringing Steve into my life.

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Beloved, let us love one another, for love is (springs) from God; and he who loves [his fellowmen] is begotten (born) of God and is coming [progressively] to know and understand God [to perceive and recognize and get a better and clearer knowledge of Him].

1 John 4:7

Sometimes we think that the busier we are, the more we are doing in the kingdom of God. But it is not how much we do, it is the quality of what we do that makes the difference. Most people will admit that they need to spend more of their time developing good relationships.

You can’t be a good friend to somebody if you never put any time into your relationship. Ask God to bring someone to mind the He would like for you to bless today. Then follow through and let that person know that God brought them to your heart.

Starting Your Day Right- Joyce Meyer

Hear counsel, receive instruction, and accept correction, that you may be wise in the time to come.

Proverbs 19:20

You may wonder, “How do I know when to confront someone about an issue, and when to let it go?” If you are too eager to set someone straight, it may not be God motivating you. Correction must be done in love to build up the person and not to tear them down. Always pray and wait until you know what God wants you to do.

You must be led of the Spirit. If after prayer you still feel that you are to talk to someone about their behavior, be absolutely sure that you are doing it for their good and not yours. If it is what God has told you to do, you may not even want to do it, but it will be done as an act of obedience to Him. Whatever you do, do it in love.

Starting Your Day Right- Joyce Meyer